The past two days, I’ve seen the internet full of FAILURE talk.
I don’t mean cutesy memes…
Hang on. Failure means that you LEARNED something, right? I mean, if you look at something and say, ‘Wow, that was @#$%%^ up!’ What was your next step?
I’m thinking you inhaled. BAM! Another chance.
You will never be perfect, I’m sorry, mostly because I won’t, either. Damned lack of perfection!
I don’t know where you are on the continuum of active/ passive/ objective/ subjective/ rolling with shite/ lolling in shite but if you can get yourself OUT, do so!
That may mean calling a friend or five. It may mean attending some free meetings (support group) or finding a psychologist or psychiatrist to get some meds and one on one spilling your guts to somebody paid to listen.
ANYTHING inclusive/ supportive — not enabling but LOVING (at least ‘accepting’). If it’s an individual or group that says, ‘we love you,’ then tells you that you’re evil…I’m going to step right up now and say THEY’RE NOT LOVING. Watch for that. I’ve fallen for this many times, too. When you find yourself in a similar situation, find something else.
Am I excited that I haven’t achieved millionnaire status by drinking coffee or whiskey with friends? I’m not yet consulting ukulele artists for big bucks?
Am I getting up everyday and ROCKING THIS (even if it doesn’t impress you)? Guess that’s perspective. I’m a massive failure to some (and I’m sure because I’ve been told that!) but I think that I’m employed and constantly self-improving — and trying to share good things! That sounds pretty good to me.
I’ve always avoided things and people which drag me down, which is why I now live in the middle of no-where. Keep being proud that you are employed and improving.
While I overly rely on others’ opinions (terrible habit cos most others aren’t particularly vested in your success), I’m touched by your kindness and support. You’re a good’un!
Girl, you GLOW all over this interweb! I’m sorry that ukelele consulting thing hasn’t worked out yet, but don’t give up. You do ROCK THIS, every day in some way or another. And I love you for it!
Mari, thank you so much! What a great thing to ‘hear.’ I’m smiling–you rock!
You know me, Positive Polly all the way! I do have friends who seem to have more problems than positives, and I life isn’t all roses and sunshine and chocolate brownies, but geez…if you can’t find SOMETHING positive the problem might just be YOU.
And the only reason you aren’t consulting the ukelele stars is because they haven’t heard of you yet.
But I have, and that counts!
Bad things happen and sometimes we get the fuzzy end of the lollipop, absolutely! I say keep trying!
Reblogged this on LifeRevelation and commented:
I reblog, talk, write and think a lot about failure…or at least what we consider failure…which isn’t always failure…because I think it is important for people to have a well rounded view…and because I have learned that my “failures” have provided me with as much (if not more) wisdom than my “successes”…so I’m reblogging this because once again Lily has written a well thought out, honest post…be encouraged!
Thanks for your support and your reblogging!
You deserve it…what a well written post!…much love to you and all of yours, from all of us…be encouraged!
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Thanks for the linkage. I’m delighted some of it worked for you!
I am in similar thoughts with you today- conduct is character- My morning conversation that’s aiming to be today’s blog -is much about your closing statement-I’m employed and constantly self-improving — DEFINITELY sharing good things! That sounds pretty good to me.-The statement I made to my daughter this morn is-”I may not fit the “Godly image” they think I should but ask God how much good I have done and I guarantee my list outweighs the ones who judge me!!!” From one massive failure to another -KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!!
‘First, harm none.’ Heck, that’s a big enough task to keep us going for life. Putting love and kindness in the world is a very important thing, so is making a living. I don’t have great achievements, like medals or certifications or industry awards — titles or powerful networking skills but I’m doing this thing. I think that can be appreciated and I hope others doing this thing can feel proud, too.
I have taken on endeavors is the past in which there was no way of success, I time or two I did succeed but all the failures were well worth it. It was never a matter of beating myself up neurosis but the challenge of learning and maturing and getting sculpted and weathered. I am much more a consequence to be dealt with if I so choose as a result.
It’s how we learn, isn’t it? Change’s gonna happen, may as well find some happiness in it.