You know that I love to share! Life gives us a lot of ‘enforced change.’ You didn’t want to be jobless. You didn’t want that illness. You didn’t want to find out your man has another woman. It could go on, heck, maybe your car won’t go.
1. Can I see this change as an opportunity?
Is there something of value somewhere in this change? Can I find something within it, a take away from which I can learn? Will I take the opportunity I’ve found and adjust or adapt to this change, to change my life, to even change me?
2. Can I react to this change by changing myself?
What thoughts and feelings do I have? Can I let go of some of them? Which ones will I allow to go? Which will I choose to express? What thoughts, words, and actions will empower me to accept this change? How will I change?
3. Can I just be with this change until I am ready to change?
Sometimes that’s all we can do. Sometimes changes are so unexpected, so painful, and so uncontrollable, we simply have to muster up enough courage just to be. And that’s okay. Because, you know what? This will change too.
Because everything changes.
Everything changes, indeed.
We are constantly changing and as is the world around us. Adaptability is one of the greatest skills we can develop and we can develop it.
I don’t think anybody loves change — unless it’s winning the lottery or after years believing you’re barren, suddenly being with child.
We can learn to see it in a different light and when we see it as something actionable, where we have power, where we have choices to make for ourselves, we are happier. Who doesn’t want to be happy? Take that bundle of enforced change that landed in your lap and drag its latent arse back into your set of tools, setting it into motion for you again.
Change happens, whether we want it to or ask it to or are ready for it. What change has given me is a really great appreciation for how resilient, adaptable, and resourceful I am when change comes. That doesn’t mean I don’t whine about it. I definitely whine about it. And wonder “what the heck am I going to do.” Then I paint it with my PollyAnna brush and just take it on. What else can you do?
You’re a perfect example of rocking this. I’m so proud that your enforced change of last year has given you something better!
I’ve probably resisted change for most of my life…..especially regarding where I live and my career which I’ve never had the courage to change much. Other stuff I adapt to more….I love most of the new technology even though I find it’s changing faster than my deteriorating brain can keep up with.
But you’re right. Everything in life changes and it’s best if we are prepared to handle it when it lobs onto our doorstep.
I think this doesn’t mean we all have to run out and force change but enforced change can be chronic illness, death of loved ones, being made redundant or losing your home in a fire. There are many others but those who can do it with a positive attitude impress me and I surely hope that I can handle things better with each enforced change.
You’ve handled many enforced changes in your life with acceptance and a sense of humor whereas I just jump up and down and swear a lot at the universe.
Thank you! I must say, Mr. GOF, I’ve mislead you somehow. One only need ask my poor coworkers about my own jumping up and down and swearing.
As a matter of a fact, I’ve been there so long that I only shock ppl from other depts, passing through. Those unlucky enough to sit in the same room have developed a kind of selective deafness in self-defense!
That’s why I have to work alone and have nobody else within earshot.